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Had a very nice second date with Johnny. He feels comfortable. Not fully sure how/if scheduling will work out, but I do like him well enough to try, and to let him have my phone number. we've been chatting on text recently instead of back on OKCupid.
Met Robin and her wife Kai for coffee yesterday after the 11 am church service with the UU's and we accidentally talked till our coffees got cold and I was half an hour past the latest i expected to be there talking! (lots of nice folks on okcupid) I like both of them, initial impression is fun queer pagan friends, and I can work with that!
It will be a good long while before i bring any of these interesting folks to meet Jeff or the polycule. I don't want to consciously compartmentalize but I had a really bad end result of trying to join two disparate relationships into one social space... first when I was like 26 and then super duper bad when Jeff let me try inviting my then-BF to move in with us... that was Bad News, kids.
I have two more first-dates planned, hopefully for this next week. One's a fella, bit older than me who says he's been poly a long time, he works in town so we're gonna hit up my favorite Vietnamese place for lunch. The other's a gal around Jeff's age, seems sweet and a bit at sixes and sevens for a community, if my hunch is correct. She seems to be a bit touch starved and I've already suggested Im excellent at long hugs... She and I are still trying to find a simpatico time to meet, though we're having good chat via the app.
Was realizing today, or maybe last night while having choppy sleep, that I'm a little skin starved, with Jeff having been gone for a week and a bit and only just back home again. I'm proud of myself for asking for what I wanted before he went in to work, I took my hoodie off and said "I need some skin contact before you go in. and he petted my head and neck a little while I petted his torso with my arm-skin. it did help. I miss how he used to grab my butt playfully.
But! *hahaha* I've got dance class tonight and hopefully I can get some friend-hugs in. That will help a lot. And even if not, that kind of movement will help. Getting my groove on always leaves me feeling better.
Met Robin and her wife Kai for coffee yesterday after the 11 am church service with the UU's and we accidentally talked till our coffees got cold and I was half an hour past the latest i expected to be there talking! (lots of nice folks on okcupid) I like both of them, initial impression is fun queer pagan friends, and I can work with that!
It will be a good long while before i bring any of these interesting folks to meet Jeff or the polycule. I don't want to consciously compartmentalize but I had a really bad end result of trying to join two disparate relationships into one social space... first when I was like 26 and then super duper bad when Jeff let me try inviting my then-BF to move in with us... that was Bad News, kids.
I have two more first-dates planned, hopefully for this next week. One's a fella, bit older than me who says he's been poly a long time, he works in town so we're gonna hit up my favorite Vietnamese place for lunch. The other's a gal around Jeff's age, seems sweet and a bit at sixes and sevens for a community, if my hunch is correct. She seems to be a bit touch starved and I've already suggested Im excellent at long hugs... She and I are still trying to find a simpatico time to meet, though we're having good chat via the app.
Was realizing today, or maybe last night while having choppy sleep, that I'm a little skin starved, with Jeff having been gone for a week and a bit and only just back home again. I'm proud of myself for asking for what I wanted before he went in to work, I took my hoodie off and said "I need some skin contact before you go in. and he petted my head and neck a little while I petted his torso with my arm-skin. it did help. I miss how he used to grab my butt playfully.
But! *hahaha* I've got dance class tonight and hopefully I can get some friend-hugs in. That will help a lot. And even if not, that kind of movement will help. Getting my groove on always leaves me feeling better.
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